Now, if possible do not even engage in the way of defending yourself or belief system. It is yours and only yours and although you may feel compelled to defend your position, this will only create an energy struggle between you and the one challenging you. This is not to say, do not speak your truth, just don't expel energy needlessly.
If avoidance is not possible and you need an out for someone who is actually defending their views rather strongly and is relentlessly trying to engage you, in a not so friendly discussion on your beliefs, you can simply say, ''right now I simply can not prove to you that I am right but when you can prove to me that I am wrong, then we will discuss this further.''
This simply tells the other person you are not interested in defending your position, that you need not have the power in this conversation because you have told them you cannot prove yourself right it the moment. You actually handed the ''control'' to them by implying you are willing to discuss it further when they have something to prove their position, this stops them from trying to engage you or take your energy because no one can really prove their belief system.
Nobody has to agree with you, believe you, even listen to your views but if there comes a time when another is purposely trying to get a negative reaction from you, through having you defend your spiritual beliefs.... simply look them in the eye, in a firm, yet compassionate manner and give them back all the power, for arguing is not helping anyone gain anything. Tell them you are unable and unwilling to prove anything to them, period.
There will always be negative people you will come across, so learning to balance between defending your beliefs and disengaging will be beneficial. Over time and with practice you will learn through experiences how to respond to others that are not of like mind and verbally opinionated about it, without them creating an imbalance within you. Be you !
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I have found that saying, "Thank you for sharing that." and ending the discussion works pretty good a lot of the time.
ReplyDeleteThanks for this post. Wish I had it a couple of days ago. But still will come in handy I'm sure. <3
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